Katherine Ryan 'riled' as husband's ex messages him just days after they welcome new baby

Katherine Ryan revealed her husband Bobby Kootstra was contacted by an ex-girlfriend just after Ryan gave birth. (Getty Images for Virgin Voyages)
Katherine Ryan revealed her husband Bobby Kootstra was contacted by an ex-girlfriend just after Ryan gave birth. (Getty Images for Virgin Voyages)

Katherine Ryan has admitted she was "irked" when her husband revealed he had been contacted by an ex-girlfriend just days after she gave birth to their new baby.

The 37-year-old comedian – who has just welcomed son Frederick with husband Bobby Kootstra – publicly aired her grievances on her podcast Telling Everybody Everything, admitting she felt vulnerable after just giving birth.

Ryan revealed: "I am someone who is not easily riled... but something occurred in my relationship which threatened that peace. I had a baby six days before so I was having some human feelings. Less of my robot – always happy, always calm self - more vulnerable to human emotions.

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"My husband receives a DM on Instagram from a woman that he casually dated after having met on one of those apps years ago. I know everyone has a past and that's okay with me.

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"This message said, 'Oh hey, small world. I have a mutual friend with one of your wife's exes.'"

Ryan admitted: "Get off my lawn! That is my initial instinct..."

Katherine Ryan arriving during the NME Awards, held at Brixton Academy, London. (Photo by David Parry/PA Images via Getty Images)
Katherine Ryan has decided to ignore the message from her husband's ex. (Getty Images)

She went on: "Would I look on social media and see someone I casually dated just had a baby with their wife six days ago. Would I message them? No. I am not an animal. Some of us were raised by wolves. I never would have sent that message but fine."

The All That Glitters presenter admitted she did not like the thought that this person and her ex had been talking about her.

Ryan said: "I did not like that. I had just had a baby and now the demon was brought into the room.

"This is an ex who doesn't like me. Won't have nice things to say about me. And I didn't like that.

"You don't talk to someone who is someone's enemy and then say, 'Hey we have this mutual person in common – who hates your wife.' Not cool. That is what irked me about it."

But the Canadian comedian said she made the decision not to rise to the incident so as not to "give it power" in her relationship.

The Duchess actress said: "This lady is not my relationship but as soon as I open my mouth and say to Bobby, 'I don't think she should be messaging you…' then this woman is standing naked in my living room.

"Don't give these things enough status to discuss them in your relationship. That is not what I am going to be discussing in my relationship."

Katherine Ryan performing live on the comedy stage on Day 2 of the 2019 Latitude Festival in Suffolk, UK. Photo date: Saturday, July 20, 2019. Photo credit should read: Richard Gray/EMPICS Entertainment
Katherine Ryan has said she has 'moved past' the incident. (PA)

Ryan insisted she had "moved past" the incident. She said, "It's over now and the peace flowed through my relationship and stayed undisturbed."

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Ryan and Kootstra were high school sweethearts but went their separate ways after breaking up in their teens. The comedian moved to the UK to pursue her career and ended up becoming a single mother to daughter Violet, now 12.

She reunited with businessman Kootstra 20 years later on a visit to her home town and they entered into a civil partnership in 2019 with a ceremony in Denmark.

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